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What Are All These Emotions

And

What Do I Do With Them?

What is trauma?  The dictionary describes trauma as an emotional shock which creates substantial, lasting damage to one’s psychological development.  It is important to remember that what is traumatic for one person may not even faze another, and vice-a-versa. An emotional trauma may be caused by any word, deed or event which changes someone for the worse, resulting in damaging behavior.  For example, the individual may become overly angry, or sad, or withdrawn, or depressed.  They may have difficulty sleeping, or have nightmares when they do sleep.  And, they may become overly sensitive to certain sounds or situations.  They may withdraw into themselves, and become more and more isolated from friends and family.

Emotional trauma can happen at any age.  An individual slight, or insult suffered during childhood may not be remembered.  But our emotional mind remembers everything.  Thus, as an adult today, we may restrict our actions to our detriment, because of a long ago, purposely forgotten, childhood emotional trauma.  We may act shy around a certain type of person.  We may become overly sensitive to scrutiny.  We may become angry over seemingly little things.  We may sabotage ourselves at school, or work, or in romantic relationships, and then wonder why.  As an adult we may suffer a work related physical accident, a car crash, or be subjected to severe conflict at home or work.  Again, on the surface, our logical mind may try to shrug off these incidents.  But, our emotional mind remembers everything, and thus affects our behavior.

Worse yet, emotional hurts can be stored in our bodies!  This is one explanation as to why physical pain returns time and again despite every medical treatment.

Intrapersonal Guided Imagery is the perfect means by which to heal  childhood hurts, and resolve adult traumas, without having to relive them.

          So, what is grief?  The dictionary describes grief as severe mental suffering resulting from loss.  Counseling may treat grief as a realization that hope of healing past hurts no longer exists.  It is important to remember that grief is a natural, emotional growth process all humans experience.  Loss can be anything from losing a friend or loved one, to losing a pet, to losing a job/career, to losing the use of one’s mind or body, to changing schools or jobs or even a home.  The impact and resulting feelings of loss are different for everyone.  NO ONE else can truly know what your individual loss feels like.  For this reason, EVERYONE should seek grief counseling as soon after a loss as possible.  In this way your loss will not overshadow your future or overwhelm your present.  A Grief £Recovery Specialist® is uniquely qualified to help you move beyond your loss to a richer, fuller life.

What is regret?  The dictionary describes regret as remorse over a particular act, or a sense of deep loss.  Regret emerges from grief when one is overwhelmed by a desire to resolve, once and for all, a past conflict which cannot be resolved face to face because of death and/or separation.

Once again, Intrapersonal Guided Imagery is the perfect means by which to resolve/heal past conflicts or relationships which can no longer be accomplished face to face.



          The most important thing to realize about guided imagery is that you don’t have to dredge up all your deep dark secrets from your past in order to achieve symptom relief.  Clients have expressed surprise that “I didn’t have to become a total basket case in public to feel better.”



The Cycle of Grief

       This list was originally designed to describe the emotions/stages one goes through during any life change – it was never intended to be applied to grief/loss situations.  So, we offer it here merely as a list, not a road map, of some of the emotions/behaviors one may experience during or after a traumatic loss of any kind.  Your loss is unique to you, so you may or may not experience these feelings.  Or, you may experience them in a different order, or cycle back and forth between several. 

        Further, this list is offered only as a reassurance that, at this difficult time in your life, your unique experience is normal and appropriate for your emotional needs. 

        And, we sincerely hope that you are able to surround yourself with kind, loving, understanding people who will allow you to have this natural, appropriate emotional response.

1)               Shock

2)               Disbelief

3)               Denial

4)               Guilt

5)               Bargaining

6)               Anger

7)               Depression

8)               Hope

9)               Healing

10)         Acceptance

11)         Transformation

12)         New Life

 



Lord & Mickey, Inc.
Specializing in Guided Imagery Counseling
Symptom relief from addictions, emotional and physical pain,
stress and anxiety, sleep disturbance, and grief
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